Today I welcome Madison Weaver, a Blogger that is passionate about marriage and about chasing after God. Her heart is so pure when she writes about building a marriage on the foundation of Christ. Her love for her husband and committing their marriage to Christ is inspiring. I believe each of you will find a awesome tip on this list to implant into your marriage.
Making Your Marriage More Passionate.
My husband is without a doubt my best friend.
We have so much fun together! Laughing is our favorite pastime, and I can not begin to count all of the amazing adventures we have had over the past 6 years of knowing each other. We have a wonderful marriage, and I couldn’t picture my life without him.
We are very passionate about our marriage, and it is our number one priority (after God, of course). It has never been perfect, but to me it is pretty close! We have had our ups and downs, but overall it has been a dream. I love coming up with ways that I can improve it and grow closer to my husband.
With life’s crazy twists and turns, sometimes it can be hard to really pursue each other like you should. Work, kids, and all the other things that life throws at you can really take a toll on your marriage and passion can easily be thrown out the window. Please do not let that happen! Having a passionless marriage is never a good thing!
Most of the time, creating the marriage of your dreams happens by doing little things that add up to big things. Here are ten ways my husband and I create a more passionate marriage:
1. Worship Together
My husband and I love to get into bible studies together! Before we go to bed at night, we do a devotion. We need to get better at diving in and actually studying (with a book that is longer than the one we have now), but we are working on it! We also love to listen to worship music while we are at home or on the go. It brings us closer together in our marriage and closer to God. We constantly strive to place Him in the center of our relationship. We wouldn’t be able to make it without God teaching and guiding us every single day.
2. Kiss Every Night Before Bed and Goodbye Every Morning
We NEVER leave the house or go to sleep without a kiss. It’s important for us to stop and take a moment to focus on each other in the rush of the day. I always think “What if something were to happen to him today? I would regret not giving him one last kiss!”. I know that seems a little morbid, but it makes me realize how precious life really is. It helps me remember to never take the little things, like a kiss, for granted. We aren’t promised the next second.
3. Make Date Night a Priority
Setting aside time to spend with your spouse is so vital for a passionate marriage. Taking time to connect and unwind with each other will do wonders for your relationship, and help you grow closer to one another as well. My husband and I try to have date night every Friday. Sometimes life gets in the way and it doesn’t happen as often as we like, but we still strive to set aside an hour or two each week just for us. Don’t think weekly date night will work for your schedule? Try bi-weekly or monthly date nights. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you are spending quality time with your spouse on a regular basis. Making time for them should be a priority.
4. Be Creative
I don’t know about you, but sometimes regular date nights (and every day schedules) can get a little boring. Once you do the same thing so many times, it becomes monotonous and the excitement just isn’t there anymore. That’s when you should get creative and think outside the box. Try a fun new game, go to a new restaurant, visit a new city, or do a different activity than you normally do. My husband and I played a new word game on our last date night. We had never heard of it, but we had so much fun! It was different than our usual “Netflix and dinner” date night and it really had us laughing and connecting all night long!
5. Take Adult Only Vacations as Often as You Can
I know sometimes budgets (and kids) don’t allow, but adult only vacations are a great way for you and your spouse to unwind and reconnect with one another without the pressures of daily life getting in the way. My husband and I usually go on a big vacation once a year for our anniversary. We cherish those trips! It gives us time to just be a couple and focus on each other. It’s also a great way to get that “fire” burning again and a time for you to just have fun together!
6. Slow Dance
Ever since our dating years, we have loved to slow dance with each other. We dim the lights, turn on our favorite songs, and snuggle in close. There is just something so romantic about slow dancing. We take this time to look into each other’s eyes, kiss, talk, and laugh together. We cherish the moment and how it rekindles the bond we have.
7. Talk It Out
Like I said before, my husband is my best friend. I talk to him about anything and everything, and he does the same with me. We talk about our hopes and dreams, our future, and how we are feeling. We talk about our problems/struggles and how we can try to fix them. We talk about our Savior and all of the many blessings He has given us and the lessons He is teaching us. Our relationship is honest and open, and we make sure to never keep secrets from one another.
8. Be Intimate Often
Sex is not something you should be doing just out of habit. It is a sacred act of love between a husband and wife. It’s a gift you should be receiving often that will help you and your spouse connect on a deeper level! If you are unhappy or bored with your sex life, get creative in this area as well. Try something new! Talk to your spouse about it. I’m sure they will have some ideas as well.
9. Laugh Together
My husband loves to make me laugh. When I am upset or having a bad day, he will make jokes just to see me smile. Especially when we are just hanging out, we love to laugh together. Sometimes, we will even go on Facebook and look at funny videos just to pass the time. Those times are the most fun! If you want to have a more passionate marriage, loosen up and laugh a little. I can guarantee you won’t regret it!
10. Choose to Love Your Spouse Through the Hard Days
You will have hard days in your life and in your marriage but do not let those days bring you down or ruin your relationship with your spouse! Choose to love your spouse through life’s toughest moments. Always choose to see the good in them, regardless of the situation. Remember that they aren’t perfect, and neither are you!
What do you and your spouse do to have a more passionate marriage? I’d love to see your ideas in the comments!
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Madison Weaver is a follower of Jesus, wife to Steven, and mommy to her fur baby Bentley. She strives to encourage and equip wives to grow closer to God and their husbands on a daily basis. She loves to spend time in the Word of God, go on dates with her husband, whip up treats in the kitchen and travel the world when she can. In all that she does, she strives to please God most of all.
I think worshiping together is a big one. We’ve never been super big on dates because neither of us came from a traditional dating background (you might be a homeschooler if you don’t even know how to date, haha!), but I do love those random moments when it’s just us again. We’re also big fans of laughter, although my laughter normally stems from the, “you can either cry or laugh in some moments, and I choose to laugh” philosophy since he likes to tease me so much. 😉
Lauren, it sounds like you and your hubby on a great road of a successful marriage. Keep the laughter going and definitely keep God as the center of it!!
I’m not married (or evening seeing anyone. Come on, where are the godly me at?!). But, #10 is something that I’m already praying about. I pray the Lord lets me see past my future husband’s flaws and see my future husband as the man that is he. You know, providing that’s the Lord’s will for me… 🙂
Cassie, I remember feeling the exact same way as you, “where are all the godly men at?!” but I must say my patience was well rewarded and I know yours will be too. The moment I finally became ok with being alone, all of a sudden a godly man showed up right in front of me. I could help but laugh and say “ok God, you always know how to make me smile!!” Think of loving yourself through the hard days now is training for loving your spouse through the hard days later. Everything I learned during my single times was definitely training for when I married.
Hello. I completely agree with how important it is to have passion in a marriage. My husband and I spend a lot of time together, we talk and laugh, we sing praises and non-praises. We started a nightly ritual of praying together before we go to sleep at night. I will talk to him about studying together. We don’t usually, but I think it’s a good idea.
Have a Blessed Day,
How sweet! Me and my husband sing praises together often too. I love it! Sometimes we even act silly while doing it and it makes us laugh so hard and other times we are truly in unity together and worshipping the Lord as one.