One thing I find fascinating about the gifts and calling on our lives is that God placed them into our lives to fulfill a divine purpose; To Serve One Another.
Because serving one another exemplifies love.
Each of our gift is to give us freedom. When freedom is there it brings peace, confidence, and unconditional love to one another. Which ultimately is the source to serving to one another in love.
For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. Galatians 5:13
This specific vision has been a very important to me in the way I look into my marriage.
I am confident in the calling the Lord has given me as a women that desires to speak encouragement. I know with all my heart the Lord specifically gave me a desire to speak life to others, whether through writing, speaking, or through prayer.
10 Selfless things to do for your spouse that will exemplify unconditional love. #salt&lightlinkup Share on XA few years ago, I had a strong unction to examine whether I was using it enough in my marriage. Most days, I felt so tired and emotionally drained from encouraging others that by the time my husband came home from work, I would not encourage him.
My expectation was of him knowing I loved him unconditionally but yet I was not giving into my marriage what I knew was part of who God created me to be. A voice of encouragement. A prayer warrior for the trying times and a wife that would honor my husband throughout the needs.
Since the epiphany, I have deliberately worked on this area in my life. Not because it was a chore into my marriage but because I was struggling within myself.
When we walk away from what God has given us to pour into ministry, our marriages, relationships, and ourselves we will struggle.
This post from His Sparrow Blog reminded me of this. That our small actions into our marriages are BIG actually actions pouring into our ministries; which is our marriage. (Yes, marriage is part of our ministry, it is actually one of the greatest ministries we can uphold).
Just like I mentioned in a recent blog post ’67 Things to say to Encourage your Husband’, Ashley’s ’10 Little things to do for your spouse’ are simple but yet quite impactful to rising our marriage up to a new level of intimacy. Intimacy brings us into being one with one another which is what God created our marriage to be. (Ephesians 5:31)
And yes, doing the things in this post from Ashley and by speaking life to our spouse is serving our spouse. Why? Because it takes our self out of the picture and it encourages them in a area that is their ministry; which is them being our spouse.
10 Little Things to do for my Spouse
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This is a special time of year for me. I’ve always loved watching the leaves show off their colors, but now it also reminds me of my anniversary. I can’t believe it’s been six years already.
Each anniversary makes me reflect over all the time that’s passed, and while I know many of you are probably reading this and thinking six years isn’t very long, I know six more years will pass in a blink. I’ll be asking myself again where has the time gone?
I’m doing my usual reflecting this year, but there’s also this yearning for the time to slow, just a little. I have no desire to go back in time: we’ve already grown more than I could’ve imagined, and I’d never sacrifice that. I look forward to seeing how we grow from here; I just wish the time would pass just a little slower.
I want to soak in every minute I can. And my reflections this year are causing me to ask myself if I’m making the most of the time we have. Am I treating my husband like the treasure he is?
The answer I’ve come to is yes and no.
I don’t think reflection can ever lead us to land on just one side of right. We tend to be somewhere in the middle, because we do many things right, but we do just as many wrong, and then there are some things we do that are steps in the right direction but could use some improvement.
I know I fall into both camps, but the biggest thing I see right now that I could do better is to pay attention to the little things. I’m a firm believer we show our love for others, or lack of it, in the little things.
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Zethu says
Absolutely love the advice given
Haley says
A great reminder to serve and love our spouses in a more intentional way.
Aminata Coote says
This is so true, Carmen, sometimes we spend our days encouraging everyone else that we forget to encourage our spouses.
Jessie says
Needed this today. My husband has been so sick, and I said to him “I am so sorry you are feeling so rotten.” He told me that it was the first time I had EVER said that to him. I love him so much, how could I have gone our whole marriage so far without just telling him those words? I really need to work on supporting him more. It’s hard cuz I’m not a lovey-Dovey person like he is, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try.
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My husband is not the lovey dovey type either but I do notice he tries quite often for me even if it seems awkward for him to be affectionate or speak romantically to me…..lol. As his wife and that knows this about him, I think I find him to be such a sweet, faithful man every time he does try. He loves me so much that he would try to make me feel the affection I need or the affirmation I crave even though it makes him feel uncomfortable. Those are the moments that shows us how unselfish we are in marriage. So I love that you want to try. It is the greatest thing we can do in our marriage…… to just try! =)
Anna says
Thank you so much for sharing!
Leandri says
Thank you that was encouraging
Ashley Rowland | HISsparrowBlog says
Thank you, Carmen!