Why we should teach our son’s Porverbs 31

When I read Proverbs 31, one of my favorite parts is verse 1.

‘The Words of King Lemuel. The oracle which his mother taught him’.

The Proverb opens with a son that speaks of what his mother taught him. A son which of whom was a King.

Throughout Proverbs 31 King Lemuel speaks of her of instructions, wisdom, and affirmation.

I think of my sons when I read this. About how much I am directly speaking to them about how to treat others and for the wives they should seek.

 

I am very adamant about telling my eldest son, of how to care for his future wife. If he gives me a kiss goodnight, I consistently tell him, if you can always remember to kiss your mother goodnight then never forget to kiss your wife goodnight.  When he takes out the trash and has a puff about it, I remind him; men respectfully take the trash out for their mothers and wives. When he is doing yard work and I give him instruction how to do it; I also remind him to always listen to his wife for the appearance of her home. And when my dear affectionate son tells me I look beautiful, I give him affirmation that his sweet spirit of many compliments, will bring joy to his future wife; and to never go a day without a compliment to her.

 

My mother once told me the day you became a mother, you become a mother in law.

I desire to raise men that women will appreciate and see a godly servant in them.

 

As someone that has a desire for my children to have a beautiful godly marriage and raise strong god fearing children, I take the quote from my mother passionately. I do not know if their lives will be of my desire, but as long as I have them and are raising them I can now inspire, pray, and teach them things that will encourage to become strong valor men and women of humbled spirits for the glory of God.

 

This is why I adore reading Proverbs 31. I read about a son that received what his mother taught him to become a man and a king. She desired to train her son as a righteous man and to rise him up to be a leader.

Her passionate seriousness of this matter was revealed in Vs. 2 as she speaks to him three times “O’ My son;  son of my womb; son of my vows.” (son of my vows represents her dedicating her son to the Lord.)

 

Imagine us as mothers, when we truly and gracefully hope for our children to understand something so significant, we speak with passion and use our child’s name several times to convey the importance of the matter.

 

I pray that when I do speak to my son with affirmation of becoming a husband and a great servant of God, that he too will one day speak the words to his children just as King Lemuel did.

 

Proverbs 31 teaches us women the traits of a strong godly wife and glory be to God that those words has encouraged more women of faith than we could ever comprehend. I too look to those scriptures for myself when feeling weary, tired, and unsettled as being a wife; but because of my heart for my sons to develop traits of a strong godly man, I am blessed by the Proverbs 31 scriptures to also use for my sons for the Glory of God.

 

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King Lemuel mother sets a standard for her son. She first instructed him the man he ought to be then gave him instruction of the women he ought to marry.

Sometimes I get so caught up on becoming a good future mother in law by making sure I am teaching my son how to treat his future wife that I miss telling him the women he ought to marry that will glorify a godly marriage.

 

As we review the verses, I hope you receive the same revelation as I did, that the first nine verses are about him becoming a righteous man before seeking a woman.

 

Oracles by King Lemuel mother teaching him to be righteous:

Vs.3:  Do not give your ways to women or your ways to that which destroys kings.

Vs. 4-5:  To not consume wine or become drunk

Vs. 8-9: To become a voice and stand up for righteousness for those who can not speak

Vs. 9: To defend the afflicted and needy.

 

Prayerfully, I hope I myself demonstrate godly characteristics of a mother and wife my son will see fit to marry but it is just as much of my responsibility to speak the words to him that it is good to find a wife that:

(Oracles by King Lemuel mother teaching him the woman he should seek for a wife.)

Vs. 11: He can trust

Vs. 12: That does him good in all that she does and makes decisions that will build her home up.

Vs. 13: To seek a women that is not afraid to work and use her hands.

Vs. 15: That rises up early to tend to her family.

Vs. 16: That is financially wise.

Vs. 17: That is strong mentally and emotionally.

Vs. 18 That makes sure her home is cared for and maintained.

Vs. 20: That she extends her hands for the needy.

Vs. 24: That she has talents that will provide for the family’s good.

Vs. 25: That she looks forward to the future.

Vs. 26: That she speaks with humbleness and is meek in spirit.

Vs. 30: That is beautiful in his eyes because she serves the lord with all her might.

 

May our sons contribute of building marriages and raising children up with the Word of God as their instruction and help from the Lord. May us as mothers take heed to the words that we must speak to them to encourage such a lifestyle.