Have you ever heard the saying, “The bible is our instruction manual for life?”

 

If you think it about, it pretty much covers just about every situation we would face in life.

If it does not describe your exact situation, most likely by the holy spirit you will be led to a story or scripture that will give you peace about your situation.

 

Truth is, the bible does not have every exact situation written,

“Jesus did many other things as well. If every one of them were written down, I suppose that even the whole world would not have room for the books that would be written.” John 21:25

 

But through reading, studying, and listening to the holy spirit you will see it does cover the characteristics and circumstances we will face, what we will need to overcome, and it definitely shares the topics of all things important to us as man and woman.

 

• Marriage

• Family – Exodus 20:12, Proverbs 22:6, Proverbs 6:12, Psalm 103:17, Proverbs 31:15-17

• Ministry – 2 Timothy 4:5, Acts 20:28, 1 Corinthians 12:4-7, 1 Peter 4:10, Colossians 4:17

• Future – 

• Money – Proverbs 13:11, Proverbs 13:22, Matthew 6:24, Hebrews 13:5, Luke 12:33:34

• Workplace / Working with under authority – 1 Peter 5:3, Colossians 3:23, Matthew 11:28-30, Luke 6:40

• Your Household – 1 Timothy 5:8

• And so, so much more…..

 

Through reading our word, we will begin to recognize more and more how much the bible is our life’s manual and how everything we do is to fulfill His ministry here on earth.

 

Unlike most ministries, Marriage is literally a 24/7 ministry.

Just a heads up….. I have recently learned to not say job. Our marriages is not work or our job! (Preaching to me right now).

Here’s why, although we know marriage is sacrificial work just like a job can be, the difference is with jobs is that there is usually a flesh gratification. Whether it’s about paying the bills, doing something you love, doing easy work, making easy money, so forth…. There is almost always a reason why we do it for the fleshly reasons.

 

Ministry is not about self gratification, it’s about the glorification of Christ and how He had set the example of marriage for us.

 

One of Christ’s example for marriage:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her” Ephesians 5:25

 

Can you believe Jesus Christ’s example of marriage is to love your wife so much that you would die for her like He died for us, the church?!

 

Wow! Can I be honest?

There are days I struggle with exemplifying my love through submission! Yet, my husbands example for to learn is how to die for me.

Ministry is not about self gratification, it’s about the glorification of Christ and how He had set the example of marriage for us. #buildingmarriage Share on X

Before we get any farther, let’s look at other scriptures the bible set for us of how to create a godly marriage.

 

Side note: A godly marriage does not mean a perfect marriage. There is no such thing but when we make the decision to live a godly marriage, to abide in His love first, and to allow the holy spirit to lead us of how to love our spouse, then we are living a much better life and marriage than we can create on our own.

 

I much rather sacrifice myself as a wife with the Lord than to do it by myself.

Trust me, I have done it and I will never make the decision to do it without Jesus again.

 

Scriptures about building a godly marriage

Genesis 2:18

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

 

Genesis 2:22-23

Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man.”

 

Genesis 2:24

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

 

Three keys points from these scriptures to pray, study, and meditate on so you can gain a better understanding as to why God placed these specifics scriptures about how woman was created from man and what significance it makes for marriage.

 

Key Points:

• It is not good for man to be alone

• God made woman from man, not separate.

• Man shall become one flesh with his wife.

 

Marriage is the only thing that will make you become one flesh with someone.

Becoming one flesh is to be the highest standard of unity through the word of God. Unity physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

You spouse is now equal to you and above all, more important than any other regard.

I understand sometimes the hard times in marriage and life makes us question this quest but it is not up to us. This is the way God designed marriage to be.

It is us as men and women that choose not to be in alignment with this.

Truth is, being a married godly man or women that desires to be in the will of God, should take this scripture literal.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.  The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

 

Ok, this scripture may be a personal topic but it needs to be address for all of us in marriage. So I am going to take one for the team right now and say it.

Do NOT purposefully keep your body from your spouse.

I do understand there are certain times and reasons you should not be intimate and even this scripture describes Spiritual fasting as one reason.

 

Other reasons of abstaining from sex with your spouse may include:

• Mourning for a loved one,
• Menstruating,
• Sick in bed flu, migraines, ect.
• Chronic illness or pain,
• Pain in the marriage – sometimes it can be very hard and even violating to make love during a time with a open wound in the marriage but try not to allow it last long, otherwise this will open the door for many more things to open. Be open about this topic as much as you can during the process of healing. (Hebrews 13:4)

Colossians 3:18-19

Submit to your husband as the Lord sees fitting.

 

I love this scriptures specifically about submitting to our husband because it says, “ as the Lord sees fitting.” This means the wife is taking instruction from the Lord of how to submit to her husband, not from man.

 

Every marriage is different and will be lead in different ways. But all will be for the same outcome: respect, godly love, to honor God’s design for marriage, and to serve one another. When we are led by God of how to submit to Christ we are doing all three.

It just may not look the same in every marriage. This is why comparison is such a negative thing to have in marriage. No marriage is the same and will never be the same. Nor none is greater than the other.  

 

For example: there are many times I do not agree with my husband decisions. Whether it’s about finances or extended family matters. I am usually the more vocal one between the two when wanting to express my reasons of why I do not agree but I am thankful for the leading of the Holy Spirit to tell me when to stop speaking or to change the choice of words or tone I was about to use.

Those moments of when I chose to listen, I am not only respecting my husband as a leader of our home but I am responding to the Lord. He knows greater than me why I needed to let my husband make that decisions without my input.

We may never know if we are stopping our husbands convictions or change of heart. We can destroy those God moments with our own tongues.

Mark 10:9

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.”

This becomes your responsibility as a spouse, either a husband or wife. Do not let no one or nothing have room or power over your marriage.

As you read the instruction earlier, you are no longer joined with your mother or father so that can not even become an excuse.

You are one with your spouse.

You make the authority and take the responsibility to not let n one separate your marriage.

No person, no spirit that is not of God, no enemy.

 

1 Peter 3:7

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” NIV

 

This scripture is specifically for the husbands but I do think it is important for us wives to know these scripures and to gracefully pray them out loud for when our husbands are not working in accordance with them.

Just as much as we pray for our husbands to gain wisdom, knowledge, to have good health, and to have favor at work, it is just as important that we pray scriptures out loud for our husbands to be in accordance of God’s design as a spouse. 

1 Peter 3:7 hits two keys points:

• Be considerate (other bible translations: giving honor, KJV. In/with understanding NASB & NLT. With intelligent regard to the marriage, AMP). Synonyms for considerate: Compassionate, generous, mindful, attentive. Which ultimately means to treat wives with respect. Wives, pray this command is always a desire in your husbands heart. 
• Weaker partner (husbands set as leaders according to God’s plan) but always remember your spouse is your equal partner that will be an heir to the gift life. 

Just as much as we pray for our husbands to gain wisdom and to have favor at work, it is just as important that we pray scriptures out loud for our husbands to be in accordance of God’s design as a spouse. Share on X

Ephesians 5:21

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

 

If I could have you take away one thing from this post, I think it would be to always remember what we do for and in our marriage as Christian men and women, is to know submitting to one another is not for the satisfaction for each other. It is all for the glory of God. It is giving submission to God first. 

Every instruction given about marriage in the bible was given by the spirit of God to give to us.

His design has such a purpose for unity, good workmanship, intimacy, and for a Christ like love that we can only experience through marriage. 

His design is perfect. We are the imperfect ones, so do not be discouraged that your marriage is not living up to these instructions right now.

Be encouraged in knowing that prayer, desire to imitate these instruction, leading from the holy spirit, and fasting can make those changes. 

Even if your spouse in not in accordance with this plan yet, you can still be the advocate and change for your marriage. 

Start today! Read each scripture and speak them to life in your marriage. 

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